Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Four Long Days




Going to Naples the weekend and Paris the weekend before that, I was getting bit stressed out going into this weekend excursion I had planned with Cristina to her home town in Girona. While another weekend without studying didn't exactly help my midterm scores, at the very least it was the most relaxing mini-vacation I've had in a while. After listening to me ramble on and on about Paris and Naples Cristina was eager to prove how great her region, so she went to ridiculous lengths to organize our weekend together. All I really had to do was show my appreciation, help her cook a little bit and convince her that I'm not going to move to Italy anytime soon. It's funny to think about, but she legitimately wanted me to enjoy myself more in Girona so I might eventually want to live there with her, and she would rather I don't learn any Italian because I'll be less motivated to learn Catalan. She's become incredibly attached to me in rather short period of time, and of course that's both really amazing to me and a little frightening. I've had a few scattered relationships since I began traveling, but none quite this serious or committed, and having a weekend to spend together just solidified how close we've become.




We stayed in her mom's spacious, immaculate house, though we never saw any light of her, as Cristina had planned. Her parents are divorced, and though her dad gave us a ride to the house, Cristina didn't even introduce us because she has a rather shaky relationship with him. Her mom, on the other hand, is like her best friend, so I know meeting her will have to be a pretty big deal. I'm looking forward to meeting her sometime - it sounds like she's where Cristina got her feisty attitude - but I was thankful to avoid seeing her quite so soon. I did get to see a good deal of where Cristina spent her childhood, though, which I could tell was a pretty important and sensitive moment for her. It reminded me of that scene in Annie Hall when Woody Allen and Dianne Keaton are looking at each other in different stages of their youth and making wry comments about how different they were. It's always strange revisiting places from your childhood and trying to gauge whether it's you or the place that has changed so much, and it was flattering to me that Cristina would have me along for that. Walking down those sleepy suburban streets and seeing the kids playing in her old elementary school, I could see her having the same sheltered and confusing childhood that I had in America. In that moment of shared emotional baggage, I felt what few cultural differences there might be between us fade a little bit.



Monday, November 17, 2008

Postcards From Itally




If, as I mentioned in my last post, it's truly difficult to "do it right" when taking a weekend excursion to Paris, then I would imagine that it's nearly impossible in Naples. For one thing, it's not a very well-known city outside of Italy and very few of the people speak English (or Spanish, for that matter). For another, it's impenetrably chaotic and tough to navigate, with people driving through the narrowest streets at the fastest speeds that I've seen since I went to Tehran when I was ten - when Mexico seems tame by comparison you know you're seeing true insanity. However, all that being said, thanks to my immensely cool roommate Andrea, I was able to fully experience one of the most wonderful cities I've ever stumbled upon, Barcelona included. Actually, I probably loved Naples so thoroughly, at least in part, because it resembles Barcelona. Like Cataluña's crown jewel, Naples is situated on the Mediterranean coast and is absolutely-stuffed with people, many of them left-leaning students who like to congregate after hours in the many bustling plazas that make up its historic center. In addition, Naples has a strong regional identity apart from (and in many ways, in opposition to) it's parent country, which is reflected in the strong regional dialect of the Italian language called "Napolitani"(?) - which, coincidentally, strongly resembles Catalan in both its vocabulary and pronunciation. If Barcelona is best personified as a whimsical art-school dropout, Naples could be its brash prankster of a little brother.




But as I indicated above, the biggest reason for my immense enjoyment of this metropolis of good vibes was that I got to spend it with friendly locals who showed me all the gorgeous sites and fed me their incredible cuisine for free. And what incredible cuisine it was: after all, Naples is the city that first spawned what we Americans cynically call pizza, although what we refer to as such has about as much in common with the original as it does to taco salad. As Andrea told me (with no shortage of his overflowing hometown pride), even the "pizza" in Rome has no right to bare that title, because everything from the method of baking it to the air and water that go into the dough make pizza a uniquely Napolitani invention. And you know what? The dude is completely right. As you can tell from the picture above, the pizza in Naples is thin, with smoky, over-toasted crust, and features far more tomatoes (and other vegetables) than fatty cheese. Not only that, but you can get a large one at any of the famous pizzarias there for about three euros, which isn't even enough to buy McDonald's in Barcelona. Add that to all the wonderful pasta they eat for *every* *friggin* meal, I'm truly shocked that everyone in Naples isn't grotesquely fat.




But the wonderful thing about food culture in Naples is that although everyone loves to eat well, they also love to cook well, which isn't always the same thing. Andrea, a professional chef in his own right, brought us to a party thrown in his honor where ten of his friends - girls and guys alike - contributed to own of the best feasts I'll likely ever take part in. Smiling dark-eyed Italian girls laughed and sipped wine while they crushed walnuts to throw into the salad. Pepe, Andrea's best friend, grinned at me mischievously as he marinated pumpkins for a truly succulent pasta sauce. I had previously thought of dinner parties as solely a right of passage into boring twenty-something-dum, but Italians have got that one figured out: you drink plenty of wine, yes, but you never get too drunk because every second someone's handing you a new dish that makes you thankful for being born. Seriously, I don't know what life of good deeds I've led to deserve all of this good karma, but I lived like a King for this past weekend, and - unlike Paris - I (almost) didn't want to leave.



It helped immensely that Andrea has a host of interesting and hilarious friends who talked to me drunkenly about everything from the insurmountable greatness of the British post-punk band Joy Division to the moral relevancy of French social theorist Michel Foucault. Chalk it up to whatever you want - being close-minded, watching too much of the Sopranos, whatever - but I had never imagined that I could meet so many Italian dudes with the same exact passions and world view that I have, and that revelation was inspiring. This was embodied perfectly in the universal reaction I received from everyone in Naples once they discovered I was from America: "You're from America? Obama! Yes-We-Can!" It as if, by sheer virtue of our electing a black man to the presidency, the United States had become an ahead-of-the-curve symbol of hope and optimism instead of the last, worst world-empire. In the packed plaza we stopped by every night next to the city's main university, complete strangers overheard my accent and couldn't wait to congratulate me on my country's achievement, and for the first time in maybe my entire life, I felt a genuine pride to be American. I was afraid that my being out of the country had robbed me of the chance to witness what was surely a triumphant and cathartic moment, but - thanks to modern mass communications, I guess - it felt even more special to me because I got to see the universal joy and admiration it inspired in nations that used to strongly resent the United States.

Monday, November 3, 2008

Paris, je t'aime, mais au revoir


There are many ways to experience Paris, but I'm guessing there's only one way to "do it right," and since it's the Most Romantic City In The Entire World, you can probably guess what that is. But since Cristina had missed two weeks of school (due to that whole Pneumonia episode) and couldn't possibly accompany me, I was forced to feel her absence in every dimly-lit, cobble-stone ally and rain-soaked garden that we came across. And we came across a *lot* of those. Not to mention that every one of those postcard-worthy scenes were predictably full of rosy-cheeked young couples nestling together like birds on a wire against the insanely frigid cold of the city. Speaking of which, Magalee had warned me of Paris' bone-chilling nature in the winter time, but still, underneath four sweaters and a cozy leather jacket, I was taken by surprise. It only reminded me further of the warm comfort I missed so deeply back in Barcelona in the form of my suffering Cristina, and made me look forward even more to the trip to Berlin we're planning together to make up for the lost opportunity for romance.



But as I joked to her when I got back, I certainly have enough photos to show Cristina more or less exactly what I did the entire weekend. As is a common occurrence with the crew of fellow-Americans I was traveling with, we saw a handful of rather touristy sights and documented them meticulously with photos. The group included Alex (or Blond Alex as I've come to call him; too many Alex's in my life) Ashley (who was in Mexico with me), her roommate and BFF Sophie, and Suzie - who I previously referred to as Out-Of-Control-Asian-Girl (embarrassingly enough, it turns out she's Mexican...). In short, this means I have a bazillion pictures of the Notre Damn and Arc de Triomphe but couldn't really tell you what Parisian people are like. But despite our complete seclusion from any non-touristy section of the city (which are certainly lovely, but also criminally-expensive), my travel-mates became completely enamored with the city and promptly revealed to me their rather childish bitterness towards Barcelona in contrast. Thus, my appreciation of Paris was almost ruined because every feather in its cap immediately became, for them, a black eye on our city of residence.



It wouldn't have bothered me so much if their complaints about Barcelona had actually had merit, but trying to compare two cities after having only spent a weekend in the most tourist-friendly spots of one of them doesn't really hold water in my book. Paris is a city well-known for its frigid, unfriendly citizens, and aside from the waiters and shop attendants (you know, the people who have a financial interest in being nice) we only met one: a drunk guy who talked to us for a while outside of a bar. Apparently this has never happened to the girls in Barcelona, which makes me wonder if they've ever ventured outside their rooms at any hour of the day there, or anywhere else, because it's certainly an experience unique to one (admittedly beautiful) French city. Their complaining reminded me of how petty and immature they can be sometimes, but it also made me realize how quickly I've come to develop a home-town pride in the city I've only lived in for about two-and-a-half months. Anyone who knows me and my virile distrust of any kind of regional or national pride should recognize this sense of belong as significant. Barcelona may not be as large, clean, fashionable, or bourgeoi as Paris, but it has a soul, I tell you, and hearing someone tear it down lit a protective spark in me that I didn't know was there. It may sound crazy, but I now know that Barcelona is my home, and after a weekend of rain, French, and over-priced... everything, I was more than ready to go back.